How to control one's tongue/anger?
Sometimes it is very difficult to control our tongue when confronted with rude behavior or an insulting remark toward us or a loved one. Yet the Holy Prophet managed to control himself at all times and show great compassion for people even those who had wronged him. Has anyone discovered some tricks they could share as to how we might be able to attain this level of self control? Does anyone have any insights as to how we can manage our tongues?
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ImanIslam Registered User
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(8/18/03 9:54 am) Reply
Be More Positive in the face of Negativity.
Asalam Alakum....
NEVER Ever let Anyones Negativity make you Negative or you have then become like them.
In the face of Negativity Be More Positive.
As Life is a Test. And Patience is a Virtue.
Salam Iman Islam
ImanIslam Registered User
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(8/18/03 9:59 am) Reply
Pay Close Attention to your Intentions.
Asalam Alakum Again...
Also, We should pay close and special attention to our our Intentions, And All that one thinks and says and does should be done Only to Please our Creator Allah the Exzalted in Might, the Most High and Wise.
Therefore we Love Allah the Most High,
and we Fear Allah the Most Greatest.
And we should Always Strive knowing that the Almighty Allah is Watching....as we are being Tested and Tried...
Who will be better than others 24/7?
Life is a Test, Do and Give your Very Best,
And Hopefully on Judgement Day,
our sould will be at Rest, Life is aTest.
Salam Iman ISlam
wapash Registered User
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(10/1/03 11:15 am) Reply
controlling tongue
Every morning you should say subhanAllah wabi hamdihi 100 times. This will forgive you of your minor sins of the day, according to authentic hadith.
Also, ask Allah for guidance and practice patience as much as you can.
Quote:Every morning you should say subhanAllah wabi hamdihi 100 times. This will forgive you of your minor sins of the day, according to authentic hadith.
Does it have to be in the morning?
trevorstanley
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(10/18/03 9:40 am) Reply
Re: controlling tongue
I remember as a schoolboy, I was doing something I was certainly entitled to do, but of which the teacher disapproved (I don't remember what). A fellow student warned me, "If you do that, the teacher will get angry!!"
I immediately thought "and exactly what bearing does the teacher's state of mind have on me, if I do not share that state of mind?" It was a burst of inspiration.
Although as a more mature person I am now more considerate of the feelings of others (!), the general idea is still valid. If someone else wants to be angry or bitter, the best thing is to remember that it's their mood, their mind, and their bitterness.
With a bit of empathy, one even pities such people.
Trevor.
(PS I'm not a Muslim, but I do find the webpage a great information resource!)
Fyasmeen
Unregistered User
(12/3/03 2:42 am) Reply
Controlling the tongue
I am in agreement with the idea that someone else's mood belongs to someone else. I am Muslim, and I know that it can be difficult to face ignorant or rude people without losing control of the tongue; however, it is our duty as Muslims to inform people of who we are and what we believe in. If the ignorant ones make comments that are untrue, I feel that they should be corrected in the best way possible although their intentions may not be good. People do things and say things for all kinds of reasons. One must pick and choose when to comment and when to ignore.We must control our tongues, but if there is an injustice said or done, we should speak out against that injustice in a proper manner. The one who is the strongest in faith will stand for what they believe in even if they are the only one standing. There are proper ways to address ignorance or wrongdoing without being displeasing to Allah.
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