Muslim Marriage
Hello everyone,
Ok I have looked and people have tried to show me "why"
a muslim woman cannot marry a Christian man. But the only evidence ever givin is opinions. whether its a personal opinion or that of scholors its still an opinion.
What Ive seen as a restriction is similiar to that of a christian except that in the Quran it specificly says That the man MUST believe in Allah! Well Allah and God are one in the same as far as I can see. The only differance is the WAY we reachGod. But we both worship the very same God. Your Allah is my God. God has many names.
So if a man is willing to let his wife continue in her practise of islam and even raise any children in islam
Where is it forbibben. The only thing that I have see is that people are of the "opinion" thgat since the quran give the husband authority that he would sway her away thus causing them too sya that a muslim woman cannot marry interfaith due to this.
I have yet to see this Written in the Quran.
In the Bible it is written that you cannot divorce. Even if the person is of another beleif. Ever athiest. So long as the are not trying to deter you from your beliefs. It is encumbant for a christian to try to show their spouse the way to God but not to force it. Actually it says not to ever waste time on someone that is resistant.
I dont believe that a man nor a woman should ever change faiths for a person. This is something that MUST be done for God alone or it is not truely sincere. You cannot truely convert someone that is not true to heart.
It would only be a masqurade.
I have fallen in love with a Muslim Woman and her Me, but what keeps us apart is our religion. Funny that we both believe in the same God yet some try to keep you apart.
Specific writtings would be appreciated. To help End our struggle.
..... And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al-Mushrikun** till they believe in Allah alone and verily a believing slave is better than a (free) Mushrik, even though he pleases you....[2:221]
If Allah and God are one in the same then where does it say " YOU CANT "
Muslim Marriage
By definition or from the different perspective: God and Allah are different.
In Islam Allah by definition should be referred to Sura Al Ikhlas (QS.112:1-4)
1.Say:He is Allah, The One
2.Allah, the Eternal, Absolute
3.He begetteth not, Nor is He begotten
4.And there is none Like unto Him
(for details, see Al Quran)
God from perspective Christian is based on "trinity concept": Father, Son and, Holy Spirit. Thus Allah and God are not one the same.(see also Surah At Taubah ,QS 9: 30)
Second about Muslim Marriage?
The Muslim Women are not allowed to marry a non muslim man. In ayah you referred to, applied for both woman and man actually. "Do not marry Unbelieving woman Until they believe:A slave woman who believes Is better than an unbelieving woman. Even though she allure you.
Nor ...............(for muslim woman).
Your question is Why? One of the answers is (The most likely), at least based on my interpretation. First based on the different of your God and our Allah SWT. Secondly, referred to Surah At Taubah(QS. 9: 2 :
"O ye who believe! Truly The Pagans are unclean; So let them not, After this year of theirs, Approach the Sacred Mosque. And if ye fear poverty, Soon Allah enrich you, If He wills, out of His bounty, For Allah is All-Knowing, All-wise.
robertj28
Unregistered User
(4/28/03 7:02 pm) Reply
The most saddest story
Hi I dont know if this is the right place to talk about this but I have a very sad story to tell.
I am a catholic and have been dating an indonesian muslim for 5 years.
We are absolutely brilliant together, love each other and care for each other and have the sweetest memories where we met in University , got educated and grew together through trials and plesures into adulthood. I have dedicated and risked my life just to make her happy and took care of her for so long.
Apart from pressures and arguments about me converting and islam we are so good together.
What has happened is that my girl was so ready to marry me always asking me, and I was working hard to push my conversion through, I told her yes but i cant convert yet, we had many arguments about islam and finaly came to a calm point where everything was good. But finally I had come to a point where my parrents are content that I convert, and the worrst thing happened to me. My girlfriend has been proposed by a muslim man, her parrents suddenly realised that this is a better deal and pushed her into it, she didnt want to but then just gave in. Came back to give me a chance to marry her. God ,hell just started for me, I accelerated my conversion, she started a love triangle, I was so furious she could do this to me even though I loved her so much I told her give me a little more time to progress my conversion a few weeks or so. God, she flirted with both of us openly! A guy she only saw for a week (this is her old highschool friend)
Then right infront of my face she said I accept his marriage, youre not my boyfriend any more (5 years of magical memories plans and futire) gone , in disbelief I cry I talk to her im angry im sad I love her. That man is overseas at a great distance. and now its progressed so far its so depressing , she fell in love with him over the internet! Her mum had instantly started wedding plans while she only knew him in person for a week. while I am here always seeing her trying to convince her to look at me all we had . She said its too late, im comitted, I want to please my mother and Im happy. I want to go to heaven by making my mum happy. God this is so bad, all our firends are completely shocked, because we are so good together and now she just does this like she has no heart, like a robot.
She is a troubled girl and has had a hard life. I was there with her when her father passed away, her brother passed away. We traveled to see her mum together, I lived in her house, I loved her and had always planned to be with her. Lets face it, we are adults and we are practicaly married.
God I feel so cheated, shes like a complete fake all of a sudden. I cant believe it.
She will marry a man she hardly knows in person, cheated on me and then came back to give me a false chance! I took the chance and worked very hard, she judged me to be worse character based on my anger and said ah this other guy is good look at you youre so emotional and unstable. Ofcourse I am, I am very serious and upset about you doing this,hes just met you.
I am so destroyed over this, and her mum thinks we can be friends? is this a joke? She thinks we can be friends is this a joke? I love her so much and she abuses me.
That is the power of Islam.
I am so destroyed and angry, this has turned all our friends into disbelief.
I fought so hard and did my best to see Islam in a fair light only to get the ultimate burn!
I wish God would pour some wisdom into her.
I still want her back.
I cant believe this.
This has distanced me from Islam and has also distance all our friends as well.
Her mum is sorry for me? and wants to be my friend? what kind of mind is this this.
Nobody ever helped me through the hardships of conversion, nobody ever cared to lift a finger to encourage me in her family.
Rest asured this is the worst thing that can happen!
All my family thought Im marrying her, and even my grand parents. All my friends knew I was fighting for her.
She now lives in great shame, sadness and is very mean to me.
Can Islam realy influence a woman that much to think shes going to heaven because she will have kids (blessing) and that to please her mum is the way to heaven.
Have I been dealt the ultimate deception? Do these people have any feelings? any conciense?
Every night I cry still after 4 months, i miss her I cry. She knows it. he blames me, she said its your fault you put me in this situation.
What is this? 1st comes 1st served?
Please people , anybody out there please help me find some wisdom of any kind to budge her out of this fantasy. She thinks that this is what God wants her to do? Everythig to her advantage is Gods will. God will proide, God willing. She is abusing God I say.
Can anybody please tell me that its not my fault? she always blames me, I bring up the sweetest memories we had , all she can do is bring up the worst.
Can someone shock her into reality.
This is so unfair, is this God? or Satan?
Do you know I am so hurt here, its just impossible to describe. I cant believe it. Can a normal woman willingly accept to learn to love a strange guy because it means going to heaven and pleasing her mum.
She is a good girl, but is so influenced.
She was so ready to marry me just a month before.
This is just so wrong? what is going on here? just so destroying.
She now plans to bring the guy here where I live.
I just cant understand.
If theres any respectable contact or schollar or anying let me know.
Or just tell me this is right in the interpretation of Islam.
If thats what it is, well Im not suprised theres so much friction around. Its sad but true.
Get serious everyone, religion destroys. This same scenario has happened in her family before to her sister.
So anyway, what a waste of 5 years. Cant believe it.
In the beginning I had no idea about what islam is.
She told me in the beginning, Im at the cross roads should I be happy or right. I said be right, and she said I want to be happy. I said Ok.
No man deserves this dishonour, Islamic or not.
What is wrong in this world.
My friends , her family and even she calls me a good guy. But heck. Why like this.
The most saddest story
I am a Muslim revert and a former Catholic. I do sympathize with your pain, but it does not take a Muslim to explain what went wrong. Dating a girl of a different culture and religion (regardless of what it is) brings on many difficulties. Dating her for 5 years is unaccectable. You implied that you were also intimate with her too. (Even worse.) The entire duration of that relationship, her mother was probably having a heartattack worried sick about her daughters reputation and whether of not anyone would be willing to marry her after being involved with you. If you were serious about marrying her there should have been a ring on her finger by the 1st year at the absolute latest. Yes I know you said you loved her, etc, etc., but unfortunately your actions said something else. The longer you dragged out the whole courtship ritual the more you proved to her family and community that you were not serious and you were using her. I am a 4th generation American and my mother (Christian) was outraged when I was in a 2 year relationship. As it turned out my mom was right, and so is you ex's mother.
i hope this can answr your q
to answer ur q. this is how i see it.
when you marry non-muslim person. at first is it okay because is just you two and you two love each other. sure i don't have problem with that. but the minute you guys have kids that is when the real problem starts. what would your kids be? im sure the husband would like his child go to church with his family sometimes and the mother would want her child to go to the masjid. and all i see is confused child who has no idea what he/she is.. i have friend of mine, her mom is Jews, her dad is Muslim. and believe me she has no idea what those two religion are. in fact she goes to the church with her friends because she have had enough of her parents fightin over it.
so my answer is adults can handle it religion difference and culture.. but is the kids that our religion is trying to protect from all that confusion..
HI
I WOULD LIKE TO SHARE WITH U MY OPINION ABOUT YOUR STORY.THE PERSON U WERE LIVING WITH AND TAKING AS A GIRL FRIEND IS NOT MUSLIM EVEN IF SHE WAS SAYING "I'M MUSLIM"TO YOU AND TO EVERYONE.SHE WAS NOTHING BUT A TRASH.TRUST ME.A MUSLIM FEMALE IS ORIGINALLY AND NATURALLY CHASTE AND KEEPS HERSELF VIRGIN BY WAITING FOR THE RIGHT MUSLIM,AGAIN I'M SAYING IT,MUSLIM HUSBAND.HER HUSBAND ONLY IS THE ONE WHO SUPPOSE TO LVE WITH HER UNDER ONE ROOF AND IN ONE ROOM ETC.. ETC.. ETC...BESIDES A MUSLIM FEMALE IS USING WATER FOR CLINING HERSELF EACH TIME SHE IS USING THE BATHROOM WHILE I BELIEVE THAT U AS A NON MUSLIM U USE PAPER TOWELS, WICH IS FORGIVE ME WHEN I SAY IT"NASTY AND DISGUSTING"BUT THAT PERSON I BELIEVE DIDN'T CARE AND WANTED TO MARRY U REGARDLESS YOUR WESTERN WAY IN CLEANING AND HYGIENIC HABITS WHICH SCIENCE DID PROOVE THEIR FAILURE IN PROTECTING THE PERSON FROM THE GENITAL VIRUSES ETCI WONDER WHAT WESTERN HAVE AGAINST WATER?DON'T U THINK ABOUT HOW IT WILL MAKE U FEEL CLEAN EVERY TIME YOU HAVE TO DODO OR P,INSTEAD OF STAYING WITH THE TRACES FOR THE WHOLE DAY LONG.AND THE ODER WHEN IT WIL COMBINED WITH THE LIQUOR U DRINK AND THE PORC MEAT U EAT AND THE SWEAT.OHHHHHHHHH IS THAT WHY U ARE USING EAU DE COLOGNE AND PERFUME ALL THE TIME?YOK.ANY WAY ......ANY WAY U BELIEVED HER WHILE SHE WAS NOTHING BUT A TRASH AND HONORLESS LIKE THE MAJORITY OF THE WESTERN FEMALE WHO ARE LIVING IN A CHAOS THAT THEY CALL STUPIDELY "FREEDOME OF THE BODY".THAT WAY THEY BECAME SLAVES FOR THEIR LUSTS AND DESIRES EXACTLY LIKE ANIMALS AND WORTH.SEE YOU'VE BEEN LIVING WITH A PIG.A MUSLIM FEMALE IS GENIUNE AND SHE NEVER ACCEPTS TO BE CHEAP AND LOW BY LIVING WITH A MAN WITHOUT MARRIAGE LIKE PIGS DO.
i HOPE I DID MAKE MY VIEWPOINT CLEAR
CHIPPER.SALAM
SISTER CHIPPER A MUSLIMAH CAN'T EVER GET MARRIED WITH A KAFFER LIKE ROBERT.SO WHY BUYING A RING?IT'S ONE OF TWO THINGS LIKE I JUST TOLD HIM'ROBERT":OR THAT FEMALE WAS WORST THAN PIGS AND NOTHING BUT A FALSE MUSLIM AND PRETENDING BEING A MUSLIM,OR ALL THIS STORY IS A FICTION.
IF A MUSLIM FEMALE ACCEPTS TO LIVE IN THE DARK AND HAVING A LOVE AFFAIR INSTEAD OF STAYING VIRGIN AND GETTING MARRIED LEGALLY LIKE ALLAH IS COMMANDING US,SO WOULDN'T HER BE LIKE THAT TYPICALLY THE SAME,SHE AND THE NON MUSLIM?IN BRIEF IF SHE WAS A MUSLIMAH SHE WOULDN'T DESRESPECT ALLAH ORDERS AND PUT A MAN AND HER LUSTS BEFORE HER CREATOR.FULL STOP.
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nancynancy1222
Unregistered User
(3/4/04 11:57 pm) Reply
i hurt everyday
nancynancy1222
Unregistered User
(3/5/04 12:06 am) Reply
i feel everyones pain
i read everyones story. and is sad to know love hurts and causes pain. i dont understand how gay people fight to get marry. yet i been fighting for 15 years to be marry to a man who cant marry me in the usa cause he is marry. is sad that a woman like me can hurt so much for love he is a arabic muslim i became a musim im a american puerto rican. and im not putting down gays im saying why can women like me get together to fight to get this dam country to let men marry a 2 wfe. is not a sin. may god bless us all and help our broken hearts... may allah bless us all..
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