I thought i'd share with everyone that last night I basically plucked up enough courage and sent a text to my close friend, James. I've known him for years, and I get on really well with him. It only took me about 3 minutes to write the damn thing but over 1 hour to press send....
I said:
Quote:Shrimp - Hope today went ok? Keep this to yourself, It just i'm not straight. Taken me a lot of courage to tell you. Hope I don't upset you. Hope you're ok. Ad
I felt really strange when I pressed send on my mobile and saw it being sent. (Wonder what it feels like to press the release button for a Nuclear Bomb?) I was kinda releasing a bombshell of my own... When it said it had delivered, it was a really good feeling that I had managed to tell him. Okay, let me just review the fact that i've told people before but this friend I was having great problems telling him.
I was on the phone to my other best friend, Alex. He's known a while and I basically was telling him that I had text'd him. During the phone call I received a reply back saying :
Quote:Ad r u trying to say ur gay? If so don't be silly mate u should of told me ages ago. Why would it upset me? It doesn't make much difference. u k?
Is it me or do people react to news in a variety of different ways? I was like wow - thats a positive reply back. He seems cool.
I don't know if you've ever had this feeling after a really good sleep but you get a good few seconds where everything is great, then you suddenly remember what you've done and said the next day. I was certainly in a great mood this morning and felt great!
I had to do something about it because you can only keep up an act for a x years and then you get bored. I just feel really bad for all the lies as if I was straight. At the end of the day I agree it doesn't make much difference who if you're gay or straight (over sexualities are available )
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Well done. Glad it went ok. I'm always surprised tho' that people use text messages and emails to tell this kind of thing. Why put it in a form that allows the info to be seen by others - accidentally or intentionally?
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Haha well done! I love the feelings when you tell someone, makes it kind of enjoyable for me... anyway congrats on the little outing :P
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that's a very positive reply mate and it makes you feel good to know that people don't make such a big deal of it anymore.
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When I told my best friend he told me that he'd known for a while. He was more upset that it had taken so long for me to tell him.
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i told my best friend on msn. the conversation went something like
him - 'so you dont like her then?' (his girlfriend)
me - 'no, not really'
him - 'that cos ure gay'
me - 'yeah, actually'
:: cue the prolonged silence ::
i then lost my paddle somewhere up shits creek as he decided to tell the rest of my mates who then managed to let half my year at school know. i hated him for ages. but hes now got over it and has even been know to let me stroke his belly on occasions
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glad it went ok for you. i did it the drunk way on boxing day. got wasted, told all my friends cause they were all in the same club, and then shagged my bf stupid! although somewhere in there id forgotten id told them all and that made for embarassment the next day!
oh! i had such trouble tellin my best mate (before boxin day) and she was fine. and then a month ago she told me she was gay too! how weird is that!
anyway, hope it all goes fine for you and that you keep us informed
You will, when the time's right. And when you do, make sure you come out with a vengeance. Though I've told a few close friends and my sister, I still haven't told my parents, which makes for some awkward conversations - as I'm the oldest in my family my mother keeps asking when she's going to become a grandmother (no chance of that even if I was straight!) and my father keeps trying to set me up with his friends' daughters!
Just remember, if people DO react badly, they're probably not true friends in the first place.
coming out
ive been contemplating telling some friends for ages now but everytime i go to...i just cant. i think i may use a text, but it'll be weird waiting for the reply!
I was kinda releasing a bombshell of my own... When it said it had delivered, it was a really good feeling that I had managed to tell him. Okay, let me just review the fact that i've told people before but this friend I was having great problems telling him.
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